Unrealized potentials, unfulfilled dreams and unused creativity among many of the silent issues that we don’t usually assess and realize how they affect our productivity as a nation.
Tackling these challenges might need specialized programs and professional expertise. Yet, on a simple cure, cultivating high self-esteem will lead to a huge leap.
The importance of self-esteem as a driver to achieve our potentials is the third law that John C. Maxwell discussed in his book, The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth! Following my previous summary of the first law, The Law of Intentionality, and the second one, The Law of Awareness, this post summarizes the third law; The Law of Mirror.
The law of mirror states that you must see your value; you must believe in your possibilities and you must have high self- steam, so you can add value to yourself and hence achieving your potentials. At the end and as the author of many bestselling books in this area Denis Waitley said: “personal development is the belief that you are worth the effort, time, and energy needed to develop yourself.”
If the equation is that much simple then why do we still see more and more of people who view themselves as victims and suffering of low self-esteem? Maxwell believes that because we usually don’t care about how we see ourselves nor we put a conscious effort to improve that.
“If you don’t realize that you have genuine value and that you are worth investing in, then you will never put in the time and effort needed to grow to your potential”. John C. Maxwell
Why do we really need to care about our self-image? Maxwell believes that “the value we place on ourselves is usually the value others place on us”.
Isn’t it funny how true this story:
A man went to a fortune-teller to hear what she had to say about his future. She looked into a crystal ball and said, “You will be poor and unhappy until you are forty-five years old.”
“Then what will happen?” asked the man hopefully.
“Then you’ll get used to it.”
Steps to Build a High Self-Esteem
Maxwell provided 10 steps to build and raise our self- esteem as the following:
- “Guard yourself talk”: stop the negative self-talk and start being your own cheerleader.
- “Stop comparing yourself to others”: remind yourself that you have to be a better version of you. Only strive to improve your today’s version than what you were yesterday.
- “Move beyond your limiting beliefs”: always have the faith that you can do great things.
- “Add value to others”: left yourself up by serving others around you and add value to their lives.
- “Do the right thing even if it’s the hard thing”: be true to yourself and your values.
- “Practice a small discipline daily in a specific area of your life”: create and practice daily positive habits.
- “Celebrate small victories”.
- “Embrace a positive vision for your life based on what you value”: have a positive vision about your life and take the needed actions to fulfill it.
- “Practice the one-word strategy”: select one word that best describes you! If it’s a positive one, then you are in the right direction to grow. If it’s a negative one, change your word, i.e. change your current living conditions.
- “Take responsibilities for your life”.
Inventory of Achievements
One of the best advices that I heard about creating a high self-steam is “creating an inventory of achievements”. In this book, Maxwell provided a similar advice. He encourages everyone to do what it takes to create a list that documents every single achievement that he/she achieved so far and to create a habit of updating it regularly.
If you are still in doubt about the importance of the law of mirror, check out this amazing quote:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. And as we let our own light shine, we give other people permission to do the same”. Marianne Williamson